The "Bodies" Left in Their Wake

I participate and lurk on lots of listservs and forums, and I am usually very interested in the thoughts shared by adults on the autism spectrum - about how they see the world now, about how they remember seeing the world when they were young, and about how they experienced their educational situations.  Recently, I had the sad opportunity to read what a variety of people shared about their experiences with special education.  It was, unfortunately, all bad.


Typical of the recollections shared, was that the time spent "in special education" was useless.  Often, it was damaging.  It wasted the youngsters' time, made them feel stupid, incompetent, "less than."  So many people chimed in, on this one thread, about how horrible "special education" was.  It was such a sad thread, to me ... a testament to how badly special education services are being provided to children.  If children are being automatically placed in "slow" classes, merely because they have special learning needs, we are doing them such a grave disservice.  So many of those children are bright, capable people!  They need to know that it is because of their inherent strengths that they will be able to overcome the struggles that they also have.  They shouldn't have to choose between the supports they need and their self esteem.  It shouldn't be that children can either be in classes that acknowledge and challenge their intelligence, or receive the supports that their learning or other disorders demand.


In some schools/school districts, it seems there is a definite misunderstanding about what special education is supposed to be.  Special education is neither a class, nor a curriculum.  It is supposed to be individualized for each student.  Just because a student has special education needs, does not necessarily mean that s/he should be in a classroom with all the other students with "special education" needs.  Those needs could be (in fact, probably are) very different from each other.  The needs cannot be properly addressed by putting all the students into one classroom.  Many student (some would argue "most" or "all" students) do best by being in the general education classroom, with some supports in the classroom.  And each of the students need to be in a class that meets the academic needs of that particular student, so if a student is a strong math student, s/he should be in a math class that will prepare him/her to advance appropriately in math, and to be engaged and challenged, rather than bored and frustrated.  If a student needs remediation in one subject, it does not mean that s/he needs remediation in all subjects - in fact, it is rare that someone with special needs (or anyone at all?) has "even" level of skills in all areas.


So now, all these young adults, with these horrible memories of special education, are opting out of "special education" for their children.  Is it the right choice?  Are most school districts still making the same mistakes that those young adults experienced?  I can't say.  For my son, that is not the case, and I know I'm very lucky for this.  My son is in an "approved private school."  I am not a big believer in "inclusion."  For some students, it's great, but for my son, it would not have been, and the approved private school he attends has been wonderful.  He receives a high level of academics (which he needs), and the social supports he needs, and the extensive supports he needs for writing - the one academic skill where he struggles ... unless it is a topic that is self-chosen.  Are there trade-offs?  Of course.  His "pool" of potential friends is very limited, since the school is so small, and the student body includes many who would not be appropriate choices (there is a wide age-range, and a wide functioning level).  But for my son, that is not the primary concern - all he needs is a couple of friends, and he has them.


But back to the rest of the student population.  If there is a whole population of students coming through whose parents won't allow them to receive the services they need, because they, the parents, received such poor services when they were students, what are we doing to our children?  It is so necessary to demand of our schools that they truly provide the free appropriate educate (FAPE) that is mandated by federal law (IDEA).  Refusing services, rather than demanding good services, is not the answer.  The special needs of these children won't go away simply by refusing services.  The children will continue to struggle - they just won't have the supports to which they are entitled.


The better school districts aren't providing "one size fits all" special education.  That's really the bottom line.  The school districts that are need to be stopped.  Until that happens, the damage they are doing is multi-generational.  When someone, or something (like a school district) injures a child, it is never "just" that one child who is injured.  It is that child, that child's family, and that child's children.  The ripple effects go on for longer than anyone can predict.